Being a Hero vs. Being a Leader

I had a conversation with a friend last week and he made a powerful distinction. We spoke about the difference between being a hero or a leader. I immediately drew the parallel to Fight-Club’s 10 year legacy thanks to a great leader.

Everyone wants to be the hero. The hero single handedly holds forces of evil at bay with ease and finesse. The hero is exalted for his extraordinary accomplishments by incompetent citizens and thus holds a position at the centre of the world. Take the hero out of the picture and the universe is flung into chaos. The people have depended so long on the hero that they do not have the skills or understanding to keep their world from going into disarray.

A leader on the other hand understands that nothing can be accomplished without a cohesive community. It takes the effort and synergy of a whole group working together to make a substantial vision attainable. The leader teaches and guides individuals of his team to reach beyond their current potential. Rather than try to control people and outcomes, he sets a tone and creates a space where great things can manifest. If the leader steps out of the picture, the power of their work carries on beyond them. They have created something bigger than themselves.

We often live our lives with the perspective of the hero, viewing our lives as a story. We feel we are the protagonists of our lives and we have to single handedly survive our lives to finally reach the end. Whew! The hero is an example of ego-centric viewpoint, and it is a very limited by nature. In reality, it only serves the illusion that the hero has about him or herself. The leader, on the other hand, expresses true leadership. A true leader has a broad perspective where every individual is honoured and treated equally.

Leadership is challenging because the rewards are expansive and bountiful, but not always clear. The impact of the leader creates exponential shock-waves in the world, as the people he touches become leaders themselves. The leader guides others by his manner, words, and actions; he or she displays integrity, humility and persistence. There are no screaming fans for the leader, but a great deal of unspoken appreciation.

by Michael M

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Heart Rate Variability and Breath Training

Heart rate variability sounds kinda like a bad thing, doesn’t it? We imagine a steady, unchanging heart rate as the ideal. But this is largely because we aren’t familiar enough with the internal aspects of our bodies. Our heart beat subtly varies all the time, going from stronger to weaker and then from weaker to stronger. Researchers tells us that this heart rate variability (HRV) is an indicator of our general health. A low HRV measure, that is, a heart beat that doesn’t much vary in intensity, is a predictor of not only chronic heart disease but also cognitive decline. Those with a high HRV measure, on the other hand, are less likely to suffer from disease and mental illness. They are also more likely to have retained higher intellectual functions, particularly those regarding attention-related tasks, into their old age. Furthermore, they are more likely to react calmly under stress and maintain self-control in the face of temptation.

To my knowledge there are three ways of improving one’s HRV measure: regular aerobic exercise, meditation, and breath training. I am going to briefly share a breathing exercise that I found in Kelly McGonigal’s highly-readable, easy-to-follow book, The Willpower Instinct, which turned me on to the subject of HRV. You can perform this exercise anywhere, at any time. I used it for ten minutes the other day while waiting in cue for a hair cut. It is simple.

SLOW YOUR BREATHING DOWN TO 4-6 BREATHS PER MINUTE

That’s 12-15 seconds per inhale and 12-15 seconds per exhale. After two minutes of such breathing HRV increases, indicating that the autonomic nervous system has entered into its parasympathetic mode. In this mode the body naturally relaxes and begins healing itself. Regular training in this fashion, for as little as twenty minutes a day, can result in so-called parasympathic dominance, that is, a nervous system that promotes relaxation and health.

Breath control exercises like the one above, as well as the many others that we practice at Fight Club, can be used to restore the body to its parasympathetic/healing mode after strenuous exercise, combat work stress (which is strongly correlated to chronic heart disease), help overcome cravings, and to treat depression. Since breathing is such an integral element of Systema, you can perhaps understand why I had earlier referred to our art as an immune system. The practice of Systema, that is, the practice of controlled breathing and relaxed strength under duress, helps ward off disease and illness.

Give this one exercise a try and see if it has any of these effects on your own life. I have found it useful in mine.

Thanks!

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Moments in the History of Systema I – On Watchfulness and Holiness

Hesychios of Sinai, a medieval Byzantine monk, was the author of a short treatise entitled On Watchfulness and Holiness. That text, along with many others contained in the Philokalia, played an important role in the development of modern Orthodox Christianity. I would like to suggest that the training methods of Systema, derived as they are from Orthodox Christian worship, are in a deep sense the echo of On Watchfulness and Holiness. When Emmanuel reminds us to “check our gauges,” to “be with yourself,” and to “be attentive,” we ought to hear in his words those of Hesychios. Indeed, we ought to hear the voices of an entire line of philosophers and holy men stretching back to Plato of Athens. Hopefully this brief introduction to Hesychios’ text will help you to begin to understand what I mean.

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Learning, Performance, Competition, and Systema

I was listening to a semi-recent episode of The Joe Rogan Experience the other day while on a lengthy bus ride. Rogan—the stand-up comedian, BJJ black belt, and UFC commentator—was interviewing UFC welterweight champion George St. Pierre (NSFW!!). After a half-hour or more of discussing Rogan’s perennial themes (aliens, DMT, and consciousness expansion) the two finally got around to St. Pierre’s approach to training. St. Pierre explained that when in-between fights he trains in order to learn. But during the period leading up to a fight, he trains for performance. While training to learn he takes risks and worries much less about success in the gym. Wins and losses are not on his mind; experiment is the order of the day. But while training for performance, no risks are taken, no loss is permitted. In St. Pierre’s mind training to learn and training to perform are mutually exclusive. One is a domain of risk and play, the other of loss-aversion and playing-it-safe. And yet the former domain under-girds the latter. Without training to learn there is no improvement; without improvement performance declines.

What struck me about this is that competition-oriented training requires regular periods of purposeful stagnation. St. Pierre consciously stops learning in order to improve his chances of winning. At least three months out of every year are spent remaining the same. Furthermore, during those periods, as St. Pierre struggles to maintain the overwhelming confidence necessary to enter into a cage-fight, he hardens his ego. He consciously experiences every defeat as a diminution of worth rather than as a sign that one has room to grow.

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A visual aid

I thought it would be useful to have a visual aid to help summarize Systema’s “essential” activities.

Konstantin’s comments on fear, freedom, and the nervous system have been a continuing source of valuable reflection. As a means of organizing my thoughts, I attempted to put my understanding into a graphical format. I would like to redo this chart in the future, but for the time being I thought it could be worth sharing.

The chart just breaks up the nervous system’s level of “activation” into five zones or states:

  • Shock/panic
  • Stress
  • Calm and focused
  • Depressed/lethargic
  • Unconsciousness or death

I think that it is important in our training to:

  • identify what state we are in
  • what those states look like and,
  • how we can modify those states

I am no expert, and welcome the thoughts and opinions of those who work in high stress environments to contribute to these categories.

I have been general with the terminology. For example “stress” is a broad term to include anything that increases the need for energy. Cold weather?  Dealing with an angry spouse? Performing pushups? All require more energy to meet the demand.

I recognize also that there are exceptions to the general notes I’ve made in the infographic. For example, I indicate that stress increases heart rate and blood pressure. I also indicate that a cause of stress might be substance abuse. Some types of substance abuse could conceivably lower your heart rate, but I would suggest that the drug is causing a deviation from typical body functions (a disruption in homeostasis), and is therefore a stressor.

Hope you find it useful – and I welcome suggestions and comments.

 

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